Educate Yourself
Fully understanding the process, including medical and legal aspects, is important in being a supportive partner. Most importantly the emotional impact it has on the surrogate, yourself and children. Researching articles, blogs and other people’s experiences will help you prepare for this amazing journey.
Communication
Be a good listener, give her space to express how she feels without any judgement. Be honest and open about your own feelings. It’s normal to have emotions and concerns. Patience and understanding from both is essential throughout the whole process. Providing mutual support for each other can strengthen your relationship.
Provide Support
There are many ways you can be a supportive partner. Attend appointments with her, if possible, it’s comforting. Helping with logistics, anywhere from organizing documents or organizing schedules can help relieve some stress. Promote well-being, encourage your partner to take care of their physical and mental health. This could involve regular exercise, a balanced diet, or relaxation practices.
Express Appreciation
Openly express gratitude to your partner. This could range from appreciation of her efforts, emotional strength, hard work and dedication to the journey. Your partner decided to become a surrogate mother to help another family but took your feelings into consideration. Often surrogate compensation is to improve the whole family’s quality of life.
Future Plans
It’s important to have similar plans and goals for the future. This could be family goals, 2nd surrogacy journey and mental impacts that come from delivery of the baby and giving the baby to the parents. Talk about how you both envision the future post-surrogacy. This can help both of you align your expectations and aspirations.
